Okay, so I have said in the beginning that this blog is the good, the bad and the ugly. Well, here lately I think it's been ALOT of bad and ugly. There has been something that has bothered me for about a week. And I have a friend that has a child that has gone through Autism, so I hope she will be able to understand where I am coming from. I AM TIRED OF PEOPLE THAT THINK THEY KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT SIDS AND SHOULD TELL ME WHAT I SHOULD HAVE OR SHOULDN"T BEEN DOING. Okay, there I said it. There is a Mother that lost a child to SIDS aboout a month ago, and I found her through the Blogger world. Anyways people post all these things on her blog about SIDS that I think is so ridiculous. For one, I do not believe serotonain levels have anything to do with it. I was told by the Chief ME for the State of VA, that Connor's levels were all normal. Another thing, our fan was running in our room. I am just so tired of other people that have no idea what they are talking about telling other mothers that just went through your WORST nightmare what can be done different.
I have done my RESEACH, do you know how many nights I stayed up all night reading EVERY article on the Internet. I was so obsessed.....
And this mess about a Angel Care monitor, yes I have one for Caty. But I have NEVER used it, can you believe that. Do you know why?? Because SIDS is UNPREVENTABLE...yep you heard that right, unpreventable. No matter what you do, you can't prevent it. There is no prevention.
There are things that medical research says will help, run fans, sleep in their own crib, annual household income over 40,000 a year, your baby's race, your baby's sex, your baby's weight.....Do you want me to go on....
Chris and I were told by Connor's ME, that we fit no criteria......
Now, that I got that off my chest, please dont think I am a expert, because I'm not. I just think when it comes to death of someone's child, please dont talk statistics with them. Those things can only hurt their hearts.
AMEN! People do that to "reassure" themselves that they meet no criteria...but it is so unfeeling, ignorant and cold. The last thing a mother needs to hear is what some one with no experience read in a magazine could have "prevented" it. God has His plans and some babies, like Connor, are so pure and sweet and perfect that they complete their works in record time. SIDS is unpreventable...there is nothing that could have made Connor stay here, or that baby of the mother you talked about. So sad that people think they know better because they read some silly article...
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