Okay, so I ran into Mrs. Evil ( the Loser at church that sent me the nasty email back in January) at Walmart 2 wees ago after Lindsey's dance practice. Anyways she pranced on by me expecting me to say NOTHING...Wrong, she messed with the wrong girl. I walked right up to her, with all 3 kids in tow, and demanded an apologize. I told her how the things she said hurt me and upset me really bad. And that I couldnt understand why she would say those things....Do you know what she proceded to do...She laughed at me, thats when I got mad, really mad!! I then started asking her why she said the things concerning me and the death of my son, she laughed again and would not comment, good thing for her because had she brought up Connor I probably would have taken all my anger out. She told me I was Crazy and all about My drama...Okay, great. I told her she was fake and not the "Molly Mormon" she proclaimed herself to be at church. She then proceded to drop the F Bomb, which my children are not familiar with. I asked her to stop and started to walk away, and she yelled it like 10 times...Nice right?? I then told her she was showing who she really was, and how terrible of a person she was. I then basically ran out of the store with Mitchell crying, because I didnt get the snacks he needed for his team. I was crying too at this point. I sat in the car awhile and then explained to my children what just happened. How their Mother chose to stand up for herself and for her family. And that I was sorry I was upset but I wasnt upset with them. Lindsey just said that she couldnt understand why Sister "Evil" was being so mean to her Mom. Of course I wanted to say, " Because she's crazy and she better be glad my children were there or I would have slapped her in the face." Just kidding I would NEVER act in that manner...LOL!! Anyways I came home to the BEST husband in the World, and I truly mean this..He is the Rock and the reason our marriage has made it through Connor's death. He made me a promise about 2 days after Connor died in the dark car with our other 2 children sleeping in the back, He told me we would make it, no matter what, we would make it through this. I love him so much for that. So, I came home and told him what happened, we talked about all of it. He agreed that I should have said the things I said and then said, "Well, at church on Sunday, we are going into Sacrament and sit on the row with her and her husband, and then I will have a Nice long talk with him." I am so glad to be married to the Giant that everyone has ALWAYS been afraid of!!
Friday Morning I woke up and felt like a huge rock had been lifted off my heart...It felt so good, to get rid of all the pain I had been carrying around since she sent that email. This may not have been the best way to end this situation, but it felt good to me.....
I think you handled yourself beautifully, Lis. YOU weren't the one dropping the words, YOU weren't the one that abused another in their time of deepest grief, YOU simply unloaded the hurt she caused. I never stand up for myself and I SO admire that you did that, and I am so proud of you as a momma, a wife and so glad to call you friend. Miss you, sweetie...
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